You can help your child begin to predict the consequences of their actions by engaging them in if/then thinking. Ask: "If you do that, what do you think might happen?"

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Medical and Mental Health Professionals
“As a pediatrician of many years, I was often frustrated when I couldn’t help parents deal with their children’s behavior problems. I find this book immensely valuable, and so will parents and other caregivers. …Whereas Dr. Spock’s Baby and Child Care was the seminal parenting book for a previous generation, Dr. Chandler’s Four Weeks to a Better Behaved Child will become the parenting ‘bible’ for today’s parents and the professionals who help them.”
– Robert Haggerty, M.D., Past President, American Academy of Pediatrics, from the Foreword to Four Weeks to a Better Behaved Child

"An invaluable resource for parents in their attempts to find the most effective ways of disciplining their children."
–Robert Brooks, Ph.D., faculty, Harvard Medical School, and author of Raising Resilient Children

"Cristine Chandler has developed an easy-to-read, step-by-step approach that will make you pause before trying time-out and other time-honored but ineffective techniques of discipline."
–Myrna Shure, Ph.D., author of Raising a Thinking Child and Thinking Parent, Thinking Child

"An informative and easy-to-read guide for parents. The four Cs to discipline offer a clear strategy for raising well-behaved and resilient children."
–Nicholas Long, Ph.D., Professor of Pediatrics, University of Arkansas for Medical Sciences, and coauthor of Parenting a Strong-Willed Child

“Dr. Chandler's book provides a clear, compassionate and empowering message to parents about how they can foster their children's positive behavior and healthy development. Based on sound research and theory but written in a delightfully clear and engaging way, this book is a much needed guiding light for all parents, practitioners, and anyone who works with children. The "four Cs" of discipline described in the book are key ingredients for raising responsible, well adjusted children. Dr. Chandler's book is filled with wisdom and positive alternatives to anger and punishment that is sure to help parents and children have more positive exchanges, fewer power struggles, and ultimately result in healthier family relationships. As a psychologist working for the past 25 years with children and families, I highly recommend this book as a "must read" for every parent and anyone who cares about children's well-being. This book is a gift that is filled with enduring wisdom for current parents and future generations.”
–JoAnne Pedro-Carroll, Ph.D., Director of Programming, The Children’s Institute, Rochester, New York

Parents


“If you calmly read this book without judging your child or yourself, then write down on your daily calendar a reminder to implement this author's ideas, you will find success. The theory is sensible and delivered in a straight forward message. You cannot lose.”
 –M.M. Straub

“As the mother of four-year-old twin boys, this book was really helpful to me. I was very frustrated by how often I found myself yelling at my children, not to mention upset by how often they yelled back at me! This book offered an alternative to all that anger, and helped my to change the way I interact with my kids. The book explains four basic concepts for disciplining children--and how to apply them in the real world. In some of her examples, I could swear she was in my living room, describing my family; it was very real, and therefore very helpful. I also appreciated that the book was to the point, and did not go on and on. I don't have a lot of time to read about parenting, I'm too busy doing it. And this book was very valuable in terms of giving me more ways to be a better parent.”
–Anne Marvin, mother of 4-year-old twins

“I found the book easy to read, interesting and most importantly full of useful suggestions. The examples are especially good in relating the philosophical discussion to the real world. The good news is that her ideas work! It's great to find a couple of simple rules which change a difficult if not impossible situation around so quickly. Everybody seems to win here.”
–A Parent

“I can't tell you the difference this book has made in our lives in not even four weeks! Within two days of finishing the book, my son was not only better behaved, but my husband and I were changing the way we responded to him and our other children. This book not only reinforces things you know, but may not always remember to use, but also teaches simple new ideas about discipline and children’s behavior. Focusing on the positive and praising "expected behaviors" has made a huge difference in all of our lives! I highly recommend this book! You will see a difference in your children’s behavior AND in yourself in no time!!”
–Lisa Guyer

The difference is astonishing. Our home feels much calmer, and we’re all just so much happier!”
–A parent